|I think you may be confused as to how dns works.|
You can't set your router to 'forward' dns to the dns server on your home server so this statement makes no sense
I want the dns to forward on to the proxy also doesn't make any sense since you are running both a dns server and proxy server on the home server.
How about you start at the top and tell us what you are trying to accomplish so perhaps you can give you a suggestion.
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