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I always had a relatively happy life, up until secondary school, where I started to get bullied.
This came to a head in Year 9, when out of nowhere the bully came up to me and punched me hard in the back of the neck.
Now I have seen a chiropractor (unsuccesfully) and am now going to another specialist who I have been referred to, who hopefully can relieve the problem, although I have been told I am probably going to have to keep the clicking/cracking in my neck.It is this clicking/cracking which I have got ever since I got punched.
You could say that I may have got a cracking neck anyway, but I'll never know.Anyway, this may interest the psychology students amongst you, I hope you can help (Yes I know this is no substitute for professional help, but as I am on a long waiting list, I would appreciate help from you TSR!)...
Basically, every time my neck clicks, I get upset, thinking it shouldn't be happening, because I didn't deserve to get punched. This is annoying but I can live with it.
It is when I get an "extreme" case that I get upset.
Let me give you a real life example that happened recently:
Suppose I had to be on the phone for half an hour to my doctor about my neck (which I believe wouldn't have happened if it wasn't for the punch), then I missed the chance to talk to someone. (I heard them outside while I was on the phone, but when I had finished they were gone).I then worried about this when I heard them the next day outside my room. By this I mean I hesitated and thought whether I should just burst out and talk to them or not, as we haven't really spoken before.
It would undoubtedly have helped my confidence if we had spoken the night before, but of course I was on the phone because of my neck.I now think of many things that "would have" happened had we spoken, but that haven't happened.
You must be thinking: just talk to them now. Well thats the problem: I don't think this is "the right time" and am worried that if anything goes wrong in the conversation its getting too late to call friends for support on this.
It is this chain of thought: If I never got punched, I wouldn't have been on the phone then, we would have chatted yesterday, we could then have chatted more today, we would be on our way to becoming great friends.
that annoys me, because that is not true.
I could try and make friends today, but if it doesn't work I will be so upset.
Its like being normally upset at someone rejecting you I guess, but with the added damage of it being because of an old bully.
I welcome you guys to challenge my thoughts, and give me good advice.
I've been shot, stabbed, blown up, beat up, yelled at, overworked, married, divorced, and forced to listen to It's My Party.
I'd consider myself lucky to be in your shoes.
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This reminds me of the guy who went to his Doctor complaining of having a frequent stiff neck.
Following his examination, the Docter advised,
"You are supposed to swallow your Viagra Tablets, not suck them."
Enjoy! Better to smile than cry.
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Quit whining! No wonder you got punched.
In reference to 11/05/2008
"So this is how liberty dies. With thunderous applause."
- George Lucas
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I think you need to have a serious talk with a psychiatrist. You appear to be suffering from a psychological condition called transference brought about by a degree of social phobia. Both can be treated
>> I get upset, thinking it shouldn't be happening, because I didn't deserve to get punched. <<
Of course you didn't, no more than I deserved to be whacked across the ears at regular intervals when I was young that has left me partialy deaf in both ears. However, blaming that on your present predicament is irrational.
It strikes me that there is more to this story than you have told, perhaps something you are not even aware of yourself. A good psychiatric counsellor will get to the root of the problem and help you sort it out.
Stuart
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I agree with Stuart.
Your unwillingness to address the issue and your avoidance of others out of fear seems to indicate that you have other issues.
I wish you luck and if you need to talk, shout or scream, we're here.
Best of luck.
A diplomat is a man who always remembers a woman's birthday but never remembers her age.
Robert Lee Frost
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I also agree with Stuart. The fact that you have posted here indicates that you need to speak with a professional. I encourage you to stop reaching out to the wrong people. We aren't professionals here and although I believe in toughing it out it sounds like you are beyond the point where that strategy will help. Good luck to you.
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I sympathise with the poster but I question whether this is the right forum for him to be posing a question like this. Surely one on one professional help would be more suitable than shot in the dark answers here.
There is no such thing as Health Food... just Health Fanatics!
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If you paid less attention to your neck and more attention to "who's knocking on your door" you'd probably forget about your neck.
Doesn't sound like the "cracking" is going to go away but the visitor certainly will (did) if you just hang on the phone.
"There's nothing bad in all the world but "thinking" makes it so".
I forget who said it.
There is nothing to learn from someone who already agrees with you.
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You think you have it rough, I could tell you some things, but I'm in too much pain right now.
"Doin' right ain't got no end." Cap'n Red Legs
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I would definitely suggest seeking professional help. It
seems that your condition should be able to treated and you
can go on to lead a long happy life :)
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Neckclicker...
Ditto with previous entries, get some help.
Go to Craigslist forum, the have plenty of free Psycho-analysts there.
Why in this COMPUTER FORUM?
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It's in this forum because people who work on computers have lives in addition to their identities as computer people.
And sometimes they feel more comfortable reaching out to those who are "their own kind" rather than others who may not share their interests.
I say let that person speak.
The most likely way for the world to be destroyed, most experts agree, is by accident. That's where we come in; we're computer professionals. We cause accidents.
- Nathaniel Borenstein
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