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When you say the router can't connect to the modem, how are you determining this?
Did you go into the router and see if its getting a wan ip from the modem?
When you say you can't connect wired to the router what do you mean? You can't get on the internet or you don't get a ip address from the router or no matter what port you get no cable connected?