Memory, SDRAMS, come in 3 flavors- Low density, High density, and Ultra-High.
Low is supposed to work with anything, and is a one-one addressing scheme to the CPU
High is is supposed to work with a mobo which supports it, else the mobo will see "HALF" of the SDRAM because of its doubled pairs of dram chips.
And Ultra-High If i'm not mistaken is for Athalon mobos (that is unless it's a subset of high density and works like high-density)
Go to www.1stchoicememory.com for more info.
If you have different Density RAM then you will get the effect you are experiencing, Or it may be that your motherboard doesn't support High Density RAM
Good Luck.